Myth #2 -- Girls who make porn are nymphomaniacs.

I suppose it would be a foregone and logical conclusion to make -- that porn stars who earn their living performing hardcore sex acts in front of the camera must have an insatiable appetite for sex. They are uninhibited, and willing to do anything and everything sexual, so they must love what they do -- and why else would they love it unless they were complete sex fiends?

When a porn star is interviewed for a publication or website, it is pretty much a given how she will respond to certain questions. Usually, the interviewer will begin by asking her how she decided to get into pornography. In every case, the girl will drone on about how much she loves sex, how she can't get enough, and how excited she is that she gets paid for "fulfilling her deepest desires." This is the classic bait that we porn stars would use to drum up excitement about our videos, and reel in potential viewers. Every girl in the indutry uses this line -- and it's bogus.

Former porn actress Shelley Lubben:

I used to brag endlessly to fans and pornographers about my extreme “Italian” sex drive and how I loved making porn movies. I would go on and on about how I needed more and more to fulfill my insatiable appetite. I lied 100% of the time to 100% of the people. Lying is the native language of porn stars because they can’t afford to tell you the truth. Not only would it ruin the fantasy for their fans but more importantly, it would ruin the amount of their paychecks. Don’t believe porn actresses when they proudly proclaim they enjoy making porn movies. They’re ACTING.

Out of every single ex-pornstar I have counseled, not one of them enjoyed making porn, nor did they get into porn to satisfy their overactive libido. There are several reasons why girls get into the porn industry, but sex drive isn't one of them.

The main factor, of course, is the money. Any porn star will tell you that this was the primary

motivator in her decision to make porn, and seeing as how one scene can pay anywhere between $500 and $1,000, this is a very enticing draw. For a girl who is young, naive, and feels she has no other options in life, this is most appealing. That being said, in the real world, the average woman would typically not allow herself to be exposed and degraded on camera for any amount of money. So, then, what else might draw a girl into the porn industry?

One common trend among porn stars, which deserves consideration, is that in most every single case, there is some background of childhood sexual abuse or neglect. In my own case, my father was basically absent from my childhood, aside from a few months out of the year. I saw him as an intimidating figure, and I feared him, although I barely knew him. He was very unaffectionate, and I don't ever recall him telling me that he loved me. Likewise, I grew up craving the attention of older men. Sex meant nothing to me, but I did have a deep yearning for male attention. For girls with absentee fathers, it leaves a huge void. Pornography provides a way of attaining loads of male accolades and adoring fans...attention that the inner soul craves. When a girl grows up feeling very unloved and unappreciated by her father, it feels good to be told that you are desirable, and even though you may hate the sex, the attention can be gratifying.

Many girls in the porn industry have also experienced some form of sexual abuse....actually, more like the vast majority. Many girls will tell you that they haven't, but my own personal experience leads me to believe otherwise. Several big-name pornstars have attested to being sexually abused, including Traci Lords, Belladonna, and Jenna Jameson. There is a certain level of shame associated with being abused, so don't expect all pornstars who have been abused to admit it. I'm not the only one who holds this view:

Ex-pornstar Carol Smith, in her book Not For Sale, writes:

When you suffer from childhood sexual abuse or were severely abused as a child, you usually repress those memories. You are unable to say, 'I am doing this because I was abused as a child and this is all I know how to do. This is all I know how to feel.' I think a lot of the women are in denial and they don't realize what post-traumatic stress disorder is. You either totally go a whole different direction and turn your life around and get as far away from that abuse as you can - or you relive the experience, and a lot of these women are reliving what they know how to feel.

Porn star Jenna Jameson, in her autobiography:

Howard (Stern) asked me if I'd ever been molested or abused. It was the one question that I wasn't prepared for. 'No', I told Howard, in answer to his question. I lied like a rug. I wasn't ready to tell anybody about any of this (being gang-raped, beaten, and left for dead), and I certainly wasn't ready to deal with Howard's reaction. I didn't want anyone to think that I was in the business because I was a victim. (Pgs. 391,395)

Anyone in the porn industry, who is honest, would agree that almost all pornstars have suffered some sort of past sexual trauma, including rape and incest. Journalist Ian Gittler, who chronicled several big-name pornstars, said in an interview with Rolling Stone magazine:

The puzzling refrain I'd begun hearing from porn outsiders: "There are plenty of people with histories of sexual abuse who didn't grow up to be porn stars." That's missing the point: The ones who did become sex workers were abused. All of them, that's my guess.

I would have to agree with this statement. For abuse victims, porn becomes a way of acting out, or of retaining some form of control. Like so many other pornstars, I have fragmented memories of sexual abuse by an uncle. I remember my father coming into the room and getting very angry with him, kicking him out of the house, and my never being allowed to see him again. I don't remember exactly what happened, and quite frankly, I don't want to remember.

While there are no statistics which correlate sexual abuse with pornography, people in the industry would tell you flat-out that it is the norm. This is a common thread among those in the industry, famous and not-so-famous. The truth of the matter is, the vast majority of women in the porn industry are psychologically damaged, fragile, insecure, and confused "little girls." The porn industry preys on this personality type because they are incapable of making healthy choices and do not value themselves. Porn fills a certain need -- but it has nothing to do with an insatiable sex drive, or lust for hardcore sex.

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